Private · International · One-to-One Advisory
She already knows.
She just has nowhere private to say it yet.
SoftLifeLove is a private identity advisory for women founders, attorneys, physicians, coaches, and business owners over 50 navigating late-in-life truth, private attraction, and identity or relationship decisions that could reshape everything they have built.
When her name, reputation, livelihood, and leadership carry weight, private uncertainty begins to shape her focus, relationships, visibility, and the decisions she makes next.
A private place to think clearly.
“If you are here, you already know why.”
Chrisha Mitchell
One Private Room
One 90-minute private advisory conversation, by phone. No video. Held under The Private Room Standard.
You do not need language for it yet. You do not need to be certain.
You do not need a plan, a label, or a timeline. You only need to arrive.
And after you say it? Nothing has to happen yet. That is the point of the room.
What you leave with
• The experience of being heard without editing
• Language for what feels true, unresolved, or difficult to name
• One dignified next step, chosen by you, or permission not to choose one yet
• An optional written reflection within 48 hours, only if you want one
$997 · Three rooms each week
No pitch. No required follow-up. No pressure to return.
For women who want to stay with what opens there, Private Advisory offers 30-day and 3-month one-to-one engagements. It is never offered in the room. If you want it, you will ask.
Meet Chrisha
I built SoftLifeLove because I needed this room myself.
I knew I was gay at 18. I came out publicly after 50.
For more than 30 years, I lived the distance between private truth and public life while navigating professional spaces, religious communities, family expectations, and the quiet cost of carrying only part of myself in the open.
For 14 of those years, I was a managing broker trusted with confidential, high-stakes matters for Fortune 500 and government clients. Discretion is not new to me. It is how I have always worked.
I also watched accomplished women carry private questions they could not bring to a therapist, business coach, family member, or closest friend.
So I built one place where those conversations finally have somewhere to go.
My favorite part of this work is watching a woman realize she was never confused.
She simply never had a private enough place to think.
For women who already know
This is for the woman carrying a truth she can no longer ignore.
A decision she can no longer delay.
A quiet shift reshaping her relationships, sense of self, leadership, or the life she has carefully built.
She does not need to arrive with certainty.
Is this the right fit?
One Private Room is a private, non-clinical advisory conversation. It is not therapy, mental-health treatment, diagnosis, legal advice, or crisis support. It is not a course, group, or public community.
If you are in immediate danger, may harm yourself or someone else, or need urgent mental-health support, call or text 988 in the United States or contact local emergency services. Please do not wait for a scheduled conversation or email response. Outside the United States, contact your local emergency number.
If you are not in crisis but are carrying something you cannot yet say anywhere else, this may be the room you have been looking for.
Why women come
Because some life decisions cannot be processed publicly.
Because functioning is not the same as peace.
Because clarity can become expensive to delay.
If the life you have built no longer feels like the life you are meant to live, perhaps you do not need another answer.
Perhaps you need one private place to think clearly.
One Private Room
$997 · One 90-minute private advisory conversation by phone
Held under The Private Room Standard
No pitch. No required follow-up. No pressure to return.
Frequently Asked Questions
You deserve to understand the room before you decide whether to enter it.
Is One Private Room confidential?
The conversation is held under The Private Room Standard. We speak by phone, the conversation is not recorded, and nothing you say becomes content. Please read the complete Standard before reserving.
If payment privacy matters to you: SoftLifeLove™ is operated by C.R.M. Enterprises, Inc., and your payment statement may include Stan and SoftLifeLove. Please review the checkout details before reserving.
Why is the conversation by phone instead of video?
Because saying something true for the first time should not require you to manage your face. There is no video, camera, or virtual waiting room.
What if I do not know what to say?
You do not need language for it yet. Half-sentences, pauses, and silence are welcome. You are not required to arrive organized or certain.
Do you work with women who are not out?
Almost exclusively. Most women who come to this room have not told anyone, and some have not fully told themselves. You do not need to be out, to anyone, to belong here.
Do I need to be out or choose a label?
No. No public disclosure, label, announcement, or immediate decision is required, expected, or suggested.
Is this therapy?
No. One Private Room is a private, non-clinical advisory conversation. It is not therapy, mental-health treatment, diagnosis, legal advice, or crisis support.
What happens after the conversation?
Nothing has to happen. If you choose, you may receive a brief written reflection within 48 hours, through the contact method you approve. There is no pitch and no required follow-up. For women who want to stay with what opens there, Private Advisory offers 30-day and 3-month one-to-one engagements. It is never offered in the room. If you want it, you will ask.
What is the investment and availability?
One Private Room is $997 for a single 90-minute conversation by phone. I hold three rooms each week, for women anywhere in the world.
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